2. The Rich Girl Operating System (Installing Abundance.exe)

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Welcome back to the Rich Girl.

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Reset.

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I'm Alyssa, and if you listen to

episode one and immediately started

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spiraling about your own Broke

girl programming, congratulations.

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You're having a breakthrough,

not a breakdown.

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Today we're diving into something that's

going to make you realize why you've been

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trying to run a Tesla on bicycle fuel.

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We're talking about the

rich girl operating system.

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Basically how successful women's brains

are literally wired different and no, it's

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not because they read, think and Grow Rich

17 times while standing on their heads.

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Because here's the tee.

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You can have all the business

strategies in the world, but if your

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nervous system is still running on,

please don't notice me software while

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you're trying to scale to six figures.

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That's like trying to stream

Netflix on dial up internet.

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Technically possible, but you're

gonna have a bad freaking time.

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Let's start with some uncomfortable

neuroscience that's going to

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make you wanna file a complaint

against your own amygdala.

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When broke people make decisions,

they're prefrontal cortex.

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That's the smart, logical

part of your brain.

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Gets absolutely body slammed by their

amygdala, which is basically your

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brain's most dramatic friend who

thinks ordering guac at Chipotle is a

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life-threatening financial decision.

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The amygdala's job is to keep you

alive, and somewhere along the way

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it decided that charging premium

prices is equivalent to jumping off

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a cliff while juggling chainsaws.

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So every time you try to level up.

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Your amygdala throws a

full toddler tantrum.

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But what if they say no?

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What if they think we're greedy?

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What if we end up living

in a van down by the river?

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Meanwhile, rich people's nervous

systems have been trained to stay

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regulated during financial decisions.

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Their amygdala isn't having a seizure.

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Every time they see a big number, they

can think clearly about ROI while you're

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over here having an existential crisis.

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About whether $97 is too

expensive for something that

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took you three months to create.

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It's like the difference between

a surgeon performing brain surgery

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and someone trying to thread

a needle during an earthquake.

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Same hands, completely

different nervous system States.

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This is exactly why I created

this EFT session called Imposter

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syndrome SmackDown, because your

amygdala needs to learn that success

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isn't actually going to kill you.

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EFT literally interrupts that drama queen

part of your brain before it can hijack

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your entire decision making process.

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Now let's talk about the two

main operating systems running

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in entrepreneurs' brains.

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Because this comparison is more

tragic than watching someone try

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to use Internet Explorer in 2025.

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Scarcity OS thinks like this.

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There's not enough.

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I have to fight for every opportunity.

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If I charge too much, they'll leave.

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If I don't reply to emails immediately,

they'll find someone better.

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Success is limited, and I better

grab whatever crumbs I can get

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before someone realizes I'm a fraud.

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This operating system makes

every decision from fear.

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It's like having a really anxious

helicopter parent living in your head,

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constantly worried that if you step out

of line, terrible things will happen.

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Except the helicopter parent has

anxiety about their own anxiety

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and needs therapy abundance.

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OS thinks like this.

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There's plenty for everyone.

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The right people will

pay my prices happily.

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If someone can't afford

me, they're not my person.

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My success creates more

opportunities for others.

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Wealth flows naturally to

valuable people, and I'm obviously

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valuable af See the difference?

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One system is constantly in survival mode.

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The other is in creation mode.

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One system is playing defense

against imaginary threats.

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The other is playing offense

with actual opportunities.

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And here's the kicker.

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These aren't just mindsets.

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You can positive think your way into

like some kind of psychological CrossFit.

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These are actual neural pathways

that have been carved into your

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brain through years of conditioning.

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You can't just decide to think different.

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You have to literally rewire the hardware.

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This is why I have this whole wealth

drip series where you're literally

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reprogramming your subconscious

while you're shampooing, because

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if you're going to be in the shower

anyway, might as well come out

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with a millionaire mindset, right?

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Here's something that's

going to blow your mind.

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Your nervous system state determines

your decision making capacity more

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than your iq, your experience,

or your strategy combined.

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When you're in a regulated nervous

system state, what we call safety

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mode, you can think clearly, see

opportunities, make bold moves.

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You're operating from your prefrontal

cortex, which is basically your

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brain's, CEO, who went to Harvard

Business School and drinks green juice.

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But when you're dysregulated in fight,

flight, or freeze mode, you literally

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cannot access your higher brain functions.

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You're making decisions

from your reptilian brain.

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Which has the sophistication

of a smoke detector that goes

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off every time you make toast.

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It can only detect safe or danger.

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And guess what?

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Most growth opportunities register

as holy crap Danger Abort mission.

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This is why you can know exactly what you

need to do in your business, but when it

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comes time to actually do it, you suddenly

can't remember how to spell your own name.

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Your nervous system has hijacked

your brain and locked you out of your

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own intelligence like a bouncer who

doesn't recognize you without makeup.

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It's like trying to perform surgery while

someone's chasing you with a chainsaw.

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Technically, you have all the medical

knowledge, but good luck accessing it

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while your amygdala is having a full

meltdown about potential death by scalpel.

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So what makes rich girls different?

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Their nervous systems have been trained

to stay regulated at higher levels

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of success, visibility, and wealth.

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And before you start thinking

they're just naturally confident.

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Honey, no.

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This is about nervous system conditioning,

not genetic lottery winnings.

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Think of it like this.

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If your nervous system capacity is a

container, most people have a shot glass

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trying to hold a gallon of success.

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Every time more abundance tries

to pour in, it overflows and their

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system freaks out like a wet cat.

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Rich girls have expanded their

containers through consistent

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nervous system training.

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They can hold bigger numbers, bigger

opportunities, and bigger visibility

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without their nervous system thinking

it's under attack From an army of

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judgment trolls, your brain is basically

a muscle that's been working out.

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At the Scarcity gym for years.

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So your scarcity muscles are jacked while

your abundance muscles are atrophied

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But here's the beautiful part.

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Neuroplasticity means you

can rewire this at any age.

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Your brain doesn't care

if you're 25 or 55.

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It's ready to learn new tricks.

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Let me break down the three nervous

system states and how they show

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up in your business, because this

is like a personality test, but

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for your autonomic nervous system.

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Fight flight mode, This is

hustle culture on steroids

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mixed with a Red Bull addiction.

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You're constantly moving, constantly

doing, but it's frantic energy.

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You're posting content like

your life depends on it.

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Saying yes to everything and

burning out every three months

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like a phone battery from 2015.

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This feels productive, but it's

actually just anxiety with a

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business plan and a vision board.

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Freeze mode.

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This is when you know what to do, but

you literally cannot make yourself do

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it like your brain has been possessed

by the spirit of procrastination.

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You stare at your

computer screen for hours.

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You write and delete the

same Instagram caption.

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14 times you research the

best time to post instead of

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just posting the damn thing.

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This is your nervous system protecting

you by making you invisible,

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which is great for avoiding saber

tooth tigers, but terrible for

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building a business safety mode.

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This is where the magic happens.

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And angels sing and

unicorns shit rainbows.

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You feel calm, clear and confident.

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Decisions come easily.

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You can see opportunities instead

of just threats everywhere.

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You trust yourself, you move with

intention instead of reaction.

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This is the state where rich

girls live, and honestly,

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the real estate is fantastic.

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Most entrepreneurs are ping

ponging between fight flights.

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And freeze like a drunk person in

a revolving door, never spending

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enough time in safety mode to

actually build sustainable success.

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Once you understand this,

everything clicks like a perfectly

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organized Pinterest board.

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It's not that you're lazy or lacking

strategy or not meant for this,

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it's that you've been trying to

run a sophisticated business from

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a dysregulated nervous system.

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It's like trying to perform

brain surgery while riding a

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rollercoaster during an earthquake.

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The problem isn't your surgical

skills, it's the environment

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you're trying to work in.

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When you regulate your nervous system

first, everything else becomes easier.

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Content creation flows, sales

conversations feel natural.

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Pricing decisions become obvious.

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It's not magic, it's just accessing

the intelligence that was always

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there, like finding your phone when

it was in your hand the whole time.

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This is exactly why the Rich Girl

Reset bundle includes these specific

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nervous system regulation tools

because you can't just think your

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way into a new operating system.

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You need actual practices that rewire

your brain at the cellular level.

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In our final episode, I'm giving you

the exact rich girl reset protocol,

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the daily practices that will start

rewiring your nervous system for

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abundance instead of survival.

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But between now and then, I want you

to start noticing your own nervous

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system states throughout the day.

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When do you feel calm and clear?

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When do you feel frantic or frozen?

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Just observe without judgment like you're

a scientist studying the fascinating

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creature that is your own brain.

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Because awareness is the first step

to upgrading your internal operating

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system from broke girl survival

mode to rich girl creation mode.

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And honestly, it's about damn time you

got the software update you deserve.

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See you in episode three where we're

installing the actual rich girl

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operating system that makes all of

this automatic instead of exhausting.